I feel like I'm in this very awkward stage of life where persons of the opposite sex say they want to be friends, but when it comes down to it they really don't want anything to do with you unless there's something more. I'm well aware of the fact that guys and girls at my age are looking for mates, but there have been several occurrences over the past year where a guy has been friendly for a few weeks but, upon seeing that a romantic relationship isn't an option, they vanish.
Perhaps I shouldn't be surprised. But it's gotten to the point that if a guy even talks to me, I automatically assume that they're angling for a catch. This has also gotten to the point that I try to subtly ward them off so that I don't become friends and then have to have the uncomfortable 'no-not-looking-for-a-boyfriend-sorry' conversation, followed by a quick vanishment.
Case in point: some friends introduced me to a guy last year. Don't get me wrong, he and I agree on a lot of issues but we also disagree on some important ones, enough to give me some major pause. A couple of weeks ago he wanted a DTR ('define the relationship' talk), and I had to try to let him down as gently as possible without beating around the bush.
I HATE DTRs, by the by. I've had to wrangle my way through few and they aren't my favorite thing by a long shot. I also try to be as blunt and straightforward as possible, because I hate playing games.
But anyway. After that, zip. It's not the first time it's happened, but it always makes me a little disappointed. It's as if a guy can't be around a girl without trying to see if he can score with her.
Am I wrong? Do guys only associate with girls if they see a romantic possibility? Or do I just attract guys who have ulterior motives? (Or do all guys have ulterior motives? O.e)
Thoughts? Anyone?
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